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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I try to do more chores. [/quote]
This definitely does help.

IMO, there are about a handful of reasons why your wife doesn't want sex with you:

1. she resents you
2. she's tired
3. you are no longer attractive (could be related to #1)
4. medical reasons (drop in hormones or other illnesses)[/quote]

These are good reasons. Here are some more:

1. Do you pay attention to her pleasure? Sex gets boring when you get nothing out of it.
2. To want sex, you have to feel sexy. To feel sexy, you need to feel confident and attractive. If you constantly belittle her or criticize her, she won't feel up for anything.
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Woman here invading this group. My husband is always very sweet to me and never criticizes or belittles me. That makes me want to be very sweet and nice to him and sex is part of that. And when we have sex he almost always asks what I’d enjoy because it’s not always the same and I do my best to make him happy. [/quote]
And it's hard to feel sexy when you are caring around 20+ extra pounds after having kids, no matter what your husband tells you. Women don't have as much self esteem about their bodies as men seem to.  Men can think they are hot even with a 20lb beer belly. Women don't generally feel that way.

I have a really flabby belly and the dreaded mother's apron from having a large baby (I am very petite).  I don't feel sexy with my clothes off, but DH tries really hard to make me feel sexy and beautiful.   And he cooks, does house chores (though I have to initiate it first), fixes stuff around the house, does the gardening, etc..  And yes I do, too, and yes we have a decent sex life.   IMO, it would be better if he was better in bed, but he does try and cares about whether I am enjoying it.[/quote]

I had three mega babies which wrecked my tummy and I don’t like my husband to see me naked in the bathroom or in our closet. That insecurity is my problem as my husband has never said anything. But with the lights out in our bedroom I’m ok being naked and my husband is very attentive to my needs. [/quote]

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