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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, if your wife doesn't have time for an affair, how is you think she she has time to have sex with you?

Not being flippant. This is your problem.

This is my marriage too. DH shares in some childcare duties but leaves all household tasks and all the family mental load to me. (We've tried chore charts. He made it one day.) I am a SAHM with two kids under five who don't sleep well and haven't since birth. Even if I weren't exhausted all the time, they can't seem to let me take a shower in peace. I am clean enough to feel sexy only on Saturdays, when I'm also up from 4:30am to 12pm doing chores that I can't do during the week because the kids need too much attention. (I have two high energy boys. Sitting them at a table to color is not going to happen.) I do all the school work - am now learning to home school preschoolers - and all the bills, shopping, laundry, home and car repair - literally, anything that is not my DH's paid employment (which I also help with, to be honest) and bathtime, which DH does do, anything other than that is at my feet.

And on top of all that, my DH is nasty and mean to me on a regular basis. He routinely refuses to speak to me when I ask him questions and uses a very condescending tone. (Friends who have heard it happen have pulled me aside to express concern. It's that bad.)

Honestly, I miss sex so much. But, what the f*ck?!

And before the DCUM harpies pile on, believe me, changes will come when my children are old enough to advocate for their health needs. DH does not believe in doctors so I am the one who has to take them to the ER or the pediatrician when they are sick. One of our kids has a chronic health condition that he is not old enough yet to manage on his own. As soon as they are old enough to recognize they need care and call me to come get them - even if they're in his custody - I'm leaving.

OP - maybe you are some great guy who does everything at home. (They do exist.) But, whatever is keeping your wife so busy is absolutely contributing to your problem.[/quote]

I...what?  OP here. That’s really not my situation at all.  I’m sorry for yours though; it sounds really tough. [/quote]

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