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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, so he wants an actual girlfriend without really putting any labels and remaining not exclusive. Sneaky! Stick to your guns. 
What's the worst that can happen - he'll stop sleeping with you? I don't think so![/quote]

OP here. This is why I'm hesitant. Yes, I get the contradiction of having sex but not willing to sleep over, but to me they are different. I love and need sex. I'm very much like a guy that I need that O for stress relief. Sleeping over with any commitment is like I'm letting him know he can have the girlfriend experiencing without naming a commitment. I don't want to spend more time and becoming more invested and interested if he doesn't see this as being longterm. [/quote]

This makes zero sense.  Your sleeping time is your sleeping time; it doesn't count as "spending time" with someone. You can be on your way early in the morning if you so wish.  You can sleep over with a different guy the next night and still be on your way in the morning.

To a guy, it makes zero sense that you have sex with him without commitment but won't stay over without one.   He'll think you're weird and coy for no reason.

Nobody starts DCUM threads about stress relief.[/quote]

OP here. It’s not just sleeping over. He wants to go to brunch, spend the day together, and had talked about spending the weekend together. I don’t want to become more emotionally invested in a guy who doesn’t see something long term with me. I’m not using him. [/quote]

Lady, he KNOWS you are emotionally invested.  You told him you are open to being his girlfriend.  He said he'll pass for now. Please don't fool yourself that he doesn't understand what you want.  He knows what you want, he just doesn't want to give it you (yet, or ever, who knows).  No you're not like a guy.    You are basically telling him, I'll keep having sex with you but unless you call me your girlfriend I won't sleep over.  From a guy's point of view, he's probably thinking, eh, weird chick, I wouldn't mind having sex with her evening AND morning, but not ready for any declarations, guess sex only evenings will do. You just fundamentally misunderstand how men think.  [/quote]

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