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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh, so he wants an actual girlfriend without really putting any labels and remaining not exclusive. Sneaky! Stick to your guns. 
What's the worst that can happen - he'll stop sleeping with you? I don't think so![/quote]

OP here. This is why I'm hesitant. Yes, I get the contradiction of having sex but not willing to sleep over, but to me they are different. I love and need sex. I'm very much like a guy that I need that O for stress relief. Sleeping over with any commitment is like I'm letting him know he can have the girlfriend experiencing without naming a commitment. I don't want to spend more time and becoming more invested and interested if he doesn't see this as being longterm. [/quote]

This makes zero sense.  Your sleeping time is your sleeping time; it doesn't count as "spending time" with someone. You can be on your way early in the morning if you so wish.  You can sleep over with a different guy the next night and still be on your way in the morning.

To a guy, it makes zero sense that you have sex with him without commitment but won't stay over without one.   He'll think you're weird and coy for no reason.

Nobody starts DCUM threads about stress relief.[/quote]

OP here. It’s not just sleeping over. He wants to go to brunch, spend the day together, and had talked about spending the weekend together. I don’t want to become more emotionally invested in a guy who doesn’t see something long term with me.[b] I’m not using him.[/b] [/quote]

You're using him for sex. If we switched the genders on your story ("guy comes over and has sex but won't spend the night or have brunch or the weekend together even though she asked him to") there wouldn't be any argument about this at all.[/quote]

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