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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes. My ex lives out of state (a few hours drive) and usually sees DD every week for a couple days. We agreed that he’d stay home and she’d stay with me until things change, if that ever happens. [/quote]

Why not give him a week on week off?[/quote]

We talked about it and [b]agreed to respect the guidance to minimize contact with non-family as much as possible.[/b] He has two other kids and will be staying home with them in the state where they live. We felt that the drive to/from that city would expose him and DD to more non-family contact than we were comfortable with. They agreed to spend extra time on the phone, FaceTime, etc. and agreed to spend extra time together when the restrictions are lifted.

Believe it or not, not everyone has a sh*tty relationship with their ex. We just came up with a plan together that involved no travel for anyone at a time when travel is being discouraged. If schools remain closed through the end of the year but our families remain symptom-free, we agreed to make a plan for her to go to his place for an extended time, meeting halfway between so we didn’t have to stop anywhere. [/quote]

If he is home, it makes sense for a visit.  Driving back and forth is not going to give you the virus.  You are denying visits. [/quote]

I think your answer is in the section I bolded. She considers her child's father to be non-family. [/quote]

And yet she has no issue taking money regularly. [/quote]

1) the concern with contact was related to the trip - many people (including my ex and me) are not traveling unless necessary - we agreed that for the time being, he is going to not travel the 4ish hours here and she is not going to travel the 4ish hours there. Notice how I keep saying “we agreed”? Not actually a euphemism for “I decided” though I doubt you believe me. 
2) he is very much my family despite us not being married anymore, but thanks for misinterpreting my words - says a lot more about you than me. 
3) he doesn’t pay any child support, but thanks for assuming and implying that I’m taking his money and withholding access to his child. Could not be further from the truth. [/quote]

PP I get it. My ex and I are trading weeks (which is not our normal schedule), but we also agreed that if anyone in either location gets sick, the kid will stay where they are until the threat passes. We don’t want to spread it, and are doing what we can to prevent that. [/quote]

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