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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Around the world, children take in their parents in their old age.  Why is that not an option?[/quote]

Have you ever lived with and provided care for someone with violent dementia?[/quote]

When I was a teenager, my mother kept my father with dementia after several strokes at home (when I was born, he was 65 and she was 45). Although he'd been a generous, kind, loving, and gentle man, at that point he was violent and abusive. He would hit me in the chest or back, leaving bruises, or leaving bruises where he grabbed and twisted my arm.

Going into our home was like being chained to someone to be used as a punching bag. It wasn't rational, and you couldn't predict or talk him out of his rages. It was illness, and it was absolutely awful to be told he loved me and I had to help take care of my father. I slept outside in the yard when it was warm enough. [/quote]

That is terrible and I am sorry you endured that.   Are you the pp at 22:07 that asked why OP couldn't take the FIL in like they do around the world?[/quote]

I'm not sure I understand your question, but I was agreeing with the sentiment that people who haven't lived with someone with violent dementia likely don't understand the full range of experience -- at least, I hope they wouldn't expect someone to voluntarily walk into that over and over.

This is my second post on this thread. My first began with "When I was a teenager ..."[/quote]

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