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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it’s important to make an experience like that as positive as possible. Many people have legit anxiety or fear about the doc office. Usually you can find *something* they are doing well and you can give a compliment about that thing. Often that helps them feel good and in turn they act better. If you can catch them being good and give that compliment it can change things. I think it would have been  better just say nothing. [b]What you did was kind of rude to the nurse, who was just trying to be pleasant, and may have been perceived by your kid as shaming. And for what purpose? It’s fine not to give the treat if he didn’t behave well, of course, but pointing out poor behavior in front of the nurse was small and unnecessary, in my opinion[/b].[/quote]

+1  It was a remarkably unkind and rude response to make to the nurse, and you set a bad example to your child.  I think you need to tell him tomorrow (since he's probably gone to bed by now) that you were wrong in how you spoke to the nurse and then apologize to him for setting being rude and setting a bad example.  Don't try to explain why you did what you did because then the "justification" completely negates the sincerity of your apology.[/quote]

I wasn’t rude to the nurse. She was really sweet and nice saying he did great and I just kinda shrugged and said, no he didn’t with a smile. Then looked at him. I had been apologizing to the nurse the whole time as he was fighting and screaming. She knew he acted a fool, why sugar coat it?[/quote]

Because the nurse knows that kids often misbehave at the doctor's office because they are scared.   So they are often trying to be positive and encouraging.  [/quote]

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