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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]These are more than just “one thing” - that said, I agree all but the “freshly ironed shirt” thing are reasonable. Who cares about an ironed shirt...

FWIW I know very few (or perhaps none)- men who are like you describe. How bizarre!!

I could see a man lacking in one of these areas? My BIL, for example, is a gainfully employees engineer, pays his own bills, extremely nice and responsible guy. But he is a slob- his apartment- ugh. He dresses neatly and has good hygiene but is a casual guy..so the freshly ironed shirt I don’t know! Decent looking too.

I’m not sure if I’d be able to get past the gross apartment, myself, but based on this board (and from what I hear IRL) many men are this way. Maybe it is better if they are honest from day 1 vs pulling the bait and switch? [/quote]
Well, that's a good point, because after you get married, and especially after the kids come along, their slovenly ways will become even more apparent. As the wife and mom, you will have to pick up after your kids and your husband.

I got married when I was in my earlyish 30s.   My parents pressured me to get married a lot earlier (I come from a culture where 28 is considered over the hill for a woman).  I was in no way going to rush to get married to a man/child.  Both my sisters got married in their 20s to men who did not meet the basic low bar threshold, and my sisters suffered for it.  One is now divorced, and the other is on anxiety meds and was hospitalized twice for anxiety.  I saw it all unfold. No thank you.

OP - it's better to stay single than be married to a man who can't even meet the basic low bar threshold.[/quote]

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