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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My college roommate's tuition was due and her dad said he just could not afford to pay it; his new (4th!) wife needed a motorcycle to match his, and that's where the money went.  She did not speak to him for many years; very hard for a 20 year old kid to make that decision. She did not invite him to her graduation.

He provided a little support here and there, but mostly it was up to her mom and grandparents to come up with rent and food. She never did trust men -- she lived with her boyfriend for 10 years but refused to marry him, then we lost touch. Irresponsible dads leave a lasting mark on the children. [/quote]

In most states, fathers or mothers are not required to pay for college.  Married parents are not required either.  20 is an adult.  Its the right thing to do but not a requirement.[/quote]

That’s the point.  Why does the mom end up doing the right thing which may not be the easy thing or the required thing but the dad doesn’t even want to pay for college if it inconveniences the dad...you know the new wife costs, new motorcycle costs.  You just made the point that dads don’t do the right thing for their kids.  [/quote]

Most mom's aren't paying either.  You assume the worst in Dad's.  What about when Mom remarries and neglects the kids despite getting child support, alimony and working and puts their needs before their own.  What about when mom demand Dad send her money to pay for things and doesn't use the extra money on the kids as stated?  What about when Dad sends clothing and mom sells them or gives them away and the kids still go without?  No parent is required married or divorced except by court order to pay.  You are very entitled to think only a divorced Dad should pay.  Maybe the 20 year old barely had a relationship with Dad and he got fed up with how he was being treated.  And, maybe the new wife was working and could afford the motorcycle herself.  Stepkids are not entitled to stepparents money.

Many Dad's do the right thing for the kids.  And, if they are paying child support, that covers their share.

If Dad isn't stepping up, in that situation, why didn't Mom step up and pay for college?[/quote]

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