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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Dh is a successful individual. He always was top of his class and is successful at work. But at home he’s falling apart. After we had our second child it just took a nosedive. He’s a traveling consultant and last year lost 7 iPhone cables, tooth brush charger, then lost the toothbrush itself a month later, shoes, coats, random clothes and credit cards. We just went on a vacation that had a black tie dinner. I packed everything for the kids and I. I even laid out dhs shirts. He remembered his tux, but forgot cumberbund, studs, tux shoes, black socks and cuff links. He’s always out buying someone a Christmas present on Christmas Eve (even after I took over gifts for everyone). He often can’t voucher at work because he loses the receipts. [b]But somehow at work he’s on top of every detail of his huge contracts[/b]. Dh isn’t trying to drop the ball with us and he’s not checked out. Clearly lacking executive functioning skills though.

Is there any hope? He’s adamant he doesn’t want meds. I’m extremely organized and type A, so for a decade we’ve relied on my lists and organization. But it only goes so far. I’ve never let him touch our finances and I keep nearly every detail of our household running (I’m not a sahm) but I can’t put more work in. [/quote]

I strongly suspect that the bolded is not the case. Most likely he has an awesome person (or group of people) supporting him at work, the same way you are supporting him at home. I work with a person like your DH. He is brilliant, but completely helpless with the details and the minutiae. Which is great, because I am decidedly NOT a genius, but am extremely organized and meticulous about the details. We make a great team, and everyone is amazed at how awesome he is and how he can keep all these projects running smoothly. Yeah, because he is the head of the duck gliding smoothly along the top of the water, thinking big strategic thoughts, and I am the feet paddling madly below the surface to keep us both afloat and things running smoothly. I suggest you find this person and thank him or her profusely. And do them, yourself and your husband a favor, and convince him that he needs to get medicated. GL.[/quote]

By his age he’s developed a bunch of odd coping mechanisms and likely tries to talk himself out of his mishaps, including at work. Maybe his close teammates have caught on.  But really, until you vacation with these types or have to really rely on them for an extended time period, you too would make excuses for the weird incidences. But at some point, you wouldn’t. You’d be like, WTf planet is this guy on? And give up and walk away. [/quote]

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