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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds like my DH’s twin. Mine is also extremely successful but had the same issues with forgetfulness. Mine probably has ADHD but he would never in a million years address it- mine thinks mental health care of every type is a bunch of BS. Unless you are suicidal or going to shoot up a school or something a it’s a pile of nonsense to him.

Anyway. All the lost stuff- yes, same. I just ignore as it is minor stuff and we can afford it. Why would you bother squabbling about cell phone chargers and whatnot? Who cares? Periodically I donate all the shit mine has lying around- you know- 15 cell phone chargers, 12 tape measures etc etc. I see no point in arguing about it.

The tux thing- yeah stuff like that- or frankly anything marginally important - “”I” do. Otherwise I will be inconvenienced by the consequences (like sitting at a tuxedo store- ugh no thanks). Most paperwork too. I know by now what things to do to save time (married 15yrs)

It is absurd but finding workarounds is the easiest route.[/quote]

This is what I did—all the stuff that’s important to me and that would be a huge pain to fix. At some point I realized that he’s just incapable of handling certain things, and that if it was important to me then I should do it. It was harder to get past the defensiveness, because he will see you fixing the important stuff behind his back, but eventually I mostly did.  I wouldn’t wait with him in a tux store, though—let him spend hours there and then show up to the wedding or whatever still without the shoes. [/quote]

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