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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You people like details.

His- all boys, ages 13, 10, 6
Mine- all boys, ages 13, 9, 7

We met on an app, but it turned out that we already had a bunch of friends in common, including several of our boy’s friends and their families. We live about 2 miles away from each other so we’re always bopping back and forth to each other’s houses. My house is twice the size of his with plenty of space. Everyone but the youngest two would have their own bedrooms. The youngest two are totally inseparable, and they’ll be fine sharing a room.

Trust me, I understand crazy. My kids are off the charts energetic, and while his can be quieter at times they jump right in. 6 boys is not for the faint of heart. But they seriously love each other and their friend groups are relatively intertwined. Those friends all live in my neighborhood and attend my schools. [/quote]

If the youngest are 6 and 7 you have not been divorced long.  No one likes to permanently share rooms.  Everyone on this forum is telling you to slow things down.[/quote]

Wow, that sounds very privileged. There is nothing wrong with kids sharing a room.

My schools are better. When they were together they looked at houses in my area and really liked it, hence why so many of our kids friends overlap. They enrolled their kids in preschool, camps, clubs, sports etc in my area. I’m sure his ex will have something to say but she’s not part of our relationship. She lives in the kids current school district so they could elect those schools. That said, mine are a lot better. [/quote]

It is privileged, but that doesn't change the fact that if you force them to share a room when they don't want to, it will lead to conflict and make life unpleasant for everyone.  Sharing a room and changing schools = they resent you.

You have not answered whether he needs their mother's consent to move them.  She will always be a part of your life because she is their mother and has whatever rights she has.

Have you thought about your parenting styles and how you will manage co-parenting and schedules with your exes?  Six kids over three households, it's going to be a lot of coordinating and compromising.[/quote]

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