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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My expectation is that the SAHP manages the home. That includes pretty much everything, from child rearing, to cooking, to cleaning, to scheduling, to activities, and whatever else is required. If I am working to support the enterprise financially alone, I am going to focus on working and when I am home, I will focus on being present and enjoying my kids and spouse.

We did this for two years before he threw in the towel. He works full time, I have a weekly cleaner who does laundry, the kids are in school and SACC and I do more of the mental labor but it's fine and doesn't bother me.

When my DH offered to be home full time, I made my expectations clear. When it became to be too much, we reevaluated, he went back to work and we moved on. [/quote]

Why doesn’t it bother you to do more of the mental labor if he is working?  Does that mean that you work less at your job?  Did you not make enough money to hire a weekly housekeeper without his financial help?

I have to say that of all of the childcare arrangements I have had (au pair, nanny, daycare, working PT, being a SAHM), working full time with a spouse at home full time was by far the best.  I don’t understand why you wouldn’t give a little to keep this.  [/quote]

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