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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Stay out of it! Don’t let them unload on you. That’s totally inappropriate. Tell them youu will help execute their decision, once they make it. Maybe suggest a couple sessions with a counselor just to help them have the conversation (it’s about far more than living space) but otherwise, keep repeating that it’s up to them.[/quote]

You either come from a family with unusually evolved elderly parents, or you have never been through this. I have with my own parents and with many friends and in every case suggesting a counselor is like telling them to expose themselves to the Coronavirus from Wuhan! Seriously, my mother was downright mentally ill from dealing with dad and you could not get her mental health help, but that is another story.

Normally you stay out of stuff, but there is a good chance something is up with mom. The early stages of things like dementia can really be a whole host of things from increased rigidity to hoarding to increased anxiety. Too often it's not "just aging." Dad is wise here and even if mom is just locked in by her own emotional stuff, she is not being rational. If they both had a full deck of cards, you star out of it, but here you are trying to stop a potential train wreck. Things go bad in a blind of an eye. You are one bad fall away from having to deal with their mess for them. It is well worth the effort to help dad out here even if it's just the peace of mind that you tried everything to avoid the nightmare that is dealing with your parents clutter while they have severe medical needs and potentially your worklife explodes and your own family needs you more. [/quote]
Mom doesn't need to move to make OP's life easier.  And it's not dementia to not want to move out of your home.[/quote]

OK Bo0mer![/quote]

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