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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I adopted from foster care and adopted out of birth order. Thing is, you can find people who had good experiences doing this and those who didn’t. There are always risks with adding to your family, even if you have a biological child. You will have to take classes before you are approved. Educate yourself there, not on DCUM where people are so negative and have no actual experience. [/quote]

Op here. Thank you. I’m not naive to birth order. I just don’t think it is the end all and be all. I also think the posters on here so obsessed with it clearly never raised twins before.  I also believe that it is good for people to recognize that hierarchy can and will change. We are signed up for an info session next week and then 30 hours of classes thereafter.

And to the extent it matters dh was a teacher in dcps with homeless foster and adopted children. He would stay home full time. I don’t think six children is so
Difficult but we aren’t such fools as to think it is easy. [/quote]

I’m glad to hear one of you would be staying home.  That would make handling everything to do with school and appointments easier.

How qualified do you think you and/or DH would be with ASD? ADHD? ODD? FAS? NAS? What about diabetes, asthma or other purely physical issues?  Over 50% of kids in foster care have major health issues, and if I remember correctly, it’s slightly higher among kids who available for adoption through foster care.

I’m not trying to discourage you from ever adopting.  The kids who are most at need are the kids with the most severe issues (odd, fas, nas, anything involving immunosuppression), but you have to be realistic about what you know how to handle and how much research and work goes into tackling sn that you’ve never tackled before.
https://www.aap.org/en-us/advocacy-and-policy/aap-health-initiatives/healthy-foster-care-america/Pages/Physical-Health.aspx

No matter what the physical health of the kids is, there will be mental/emotional trauma.  If you think you can handle it, go for it.  I’d still suggest a sibling group with the eldest at least 6 months younger than your youngest.[/quote]

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