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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t know if it’s chicken or egg, but it seems to be self-reinforcing that people with kids who didn’t train until (usually) 3+ are the ones who say things like “I don’t consider a kid potty trained unless he takes himself to a real toilet, manages his clothing with all buttons and snaps, wipes well and independently, washes hands according to CDC guidelines, never has a single accident, etc.”

Like... yeah, that’s not all going to happen 110% of the time until close to or over 3, so I see why you don’t bother before then. But then again, I think it’s also ex-post-facto justification for waiting. To me, as it was with another poster whose twins PT at 16 months, a kid is PT when they understand when they need to go and tell you/go over to a potty in advance of doing it, and then they pee or poop in an appropriate place, with fairly rare accidents (no more than once a week or so, and tapering off to nothing pretty quickly). By that measure, mine was also trained before 16 months.

They might need help with clothing or somewhat with wiping, but they have made the connection between feeling the urge to go and going in a potty/toilet, and they do it very, very consistently— to me, that’s pretty much the definition of potty trained. The rest is mostly motor skills and body size (my kid wasn’t able to sit on a toilet without an insert until at least 2.5).

EVERY kid is going to need SOME help before 2 or 3, so pick your poison— helping them pull down their pants or changing their poopy diaper. *shrug* [/quote]

Exactly so why is picking one kind of help "lazy" and the other isn't.

Parenting is about helping your kid.  You can spend months wiping their butt and running to the toilet, or changing diapers, but kids aren't ready to put it together until they're 3, and if you decide that not pushing is what works for your family, you'll likely find that things come together really fast at 3.  Waiting until then is neither lazy nor morally superior.  It's just one of the options.

Having said that, OP can't wait until her kid's 3 to introduce the idea, because she already has. [/quote]

OP is being lazy because she is literally waiting for her kid to say "I don't want diapers anymore".  That's different than helping your kid along - that is just not wanting to deal. [/quote]

This is OP. And this is the first time I’ve responded to this thread, so the priors weren’t me. I always think it’s interesting when people who train earlier think early training holds moral significance and people who train later are lazy or dirty. I could argue the other way (what? Are you too lazy to keep changing diapers? Are you so dirty that you’re ok with your two year old touching things in public rest rooms and so dirty that you’re ok with lots of pee and poop accidents all over your house?). I don’t believe either of those things. I’m just saying that you could argue either way. I think it’s a choice completely devoid of moral implications either way. You just do what suits your child and is most convenient for your family. It’s so interesting to me that the early trainers think they have made a morally superior choice.

Anyway, this was very helpful. Thank you alll![/quote]

Lol no.  No.  You want your kid to magically say “no more diapers”. That’s lazy.  And that’s different than waiting until closer to three so it goes quicker. [/quote]

It’s crazy.  Do you also hold off on sending your kid to preschool until they announce they are ready to go to school?  Do you not take your kid to their annual checkup unless they announce they want to go?  What is wrong with you people?[/quote]

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