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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]47.2 -- I was unhappy with my life.  I was tired all the time.  My body ached.  I was noticing I could not do things I used to be able to do...but....48-50 was so much worse.  I had to face my own mortality with cancer and heart disease.  Stage 4 cancer resulted in removal of a lung and a kidney. My diabetes went out of control.  Heart disease resulted in 4 stents and a pacemaker; I went from one doctor (PCP), to a team -- PCP, cardiologist, endocrinologist, arrhythmia specialist, nephrologist, and oncologist.   
Scared the crap out of me.

For about 4 years (49-53), I was certain I would not see my kid graduate HS.  My low point was 50...and then, it occurred to me, we are all going to go sometime.  We have little control over when it will happen (we can make it happen, but can not extend forever).  And I realized if it got significantly worse, I could take care of it.  But it did not.  Instead of looking several years ahead, I only planned my life to the next scan.  I lived for the day.  And if it was a nice day, I blew off work.  I enjoyed my life.  I realized, at this point, each day was a bonus day; the cancer should have gotten me earlier, and if not, the blockage in the LAD artery should have.

I got out of the bad place emotionally.  Today, at 56, I am good.  Body does not work as well as it used to (poorly designed shoulder gave out, was repaired, and am recovering), and my plumbing does not work well anymore (I am male), but since my wife as no interest in sex, it is ok.

And this year, DD graduates HS.[/quote]

You made it through all of that and managed to gain a new perspective and appreciation of life. I hope the stress is all behind you now and that the coming years will be peaceful, happy and healthy for you.[/quote]

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