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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=jsteele][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=jsteele][quote=Anonymous]If somebody is shopping around for a formal diagnosis that does not exist in the DSM-V, why is it offensive and inappropriate to point that?
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You are making assumptions that I am not sure you are in a position to make. In any case, such posts have disrupted many threads without yielding any observable benefit. Please refrain from posting them.
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Whether or not something exists (or does not exist) as a diagnosis in the DSM-5 is not an assumption.  It’s a fact.

I’m a long-time consumer of this board as a source of information.  If you censor factual information I’m not sure that does a great service.

But it’s your board and you set the rules.[/quote]

+1.

People need to be constructive in tone.  But this board is most valuable when people with knowledge and experience are able to share it.  I have seen threads where people get upset that some posters are pushing back on OP’s expectations or views of what someone (such as a school) has done.  But OP’s expectations (about the chance of a private placement, for example) were not remotely realistic.

It does OP little good for people to just cheer her on and agree that the school system is wrong.  Maybe it makes her fee better, but I think it is much more valuable to provide a reasoned, POLITE explanation of why her expectations are off and what might be more realistic or what steps she would need to take to get where what she wants might be possible.

I also worry that if the countervailing view is not allowed, other posters reading the thread may develop unreasonable or unrealistic expectations.  I don’t think that serves the community well and defeats much of the purpose of this board.[/quote]

Well, since you find push back to be helpful, allow me to push back and say that your post is almost entirely irrelevant to this discussion. In no way have I implied that a "POLITE explanation" would not be allowed. What I am not going to allow any longer is the constant hijacking of threads by posters who repeat the same arguments that have already been repeated multiple times -- generally about whether or not something is ASD (though there are other cases). 
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Except I have seen such posts deleted.  And if you are now going to monitor the board with greater diligence, it is reasonable to assume more such posts will be deleted.  So I disagree it is off topic.

More fundamentally, I am really disappointed in your tone to me and the other PP.  We have each offered constructive insights into what we believe will make this board more valuable.  You have responded with snark and hostility -- on a topic that was started for the express purpose of fostering civility no less.

Of course, you are free to disagree a with us, both generally, and because (as you love to point out) it is your board.  But there seems to be no reason for your attitude here.[/quote]

DP.  I have been on this forum longer and more often than I care to admit, and I can say that Jeff does a generally very good job at moderation. I believe that he will able to identify the posts that are truly derailing the conversation.  I also believe that if you take care to frame your comment appropriately, you can probably post whatever you want. Because what derails a conversation is not so much the content, but the tone.  [/quote]

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