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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My wife says similar things to that man's wife.  I offer her the chance to sleep with other men and open the marriage and she says she doesn't want to.  She doesn't want an open marriage because she doesn't need me out on public dates or embarrassing her.  In her word, no diseases, no pregnancies and she better not find out.[/quote]

Asking seriously: Why remain married? "For the kids"? Finances? Is there any love or companionship or mutual interests left?

So she's giving you the green light to have affairs. As long as you don't "embarrass" her. Do you both own a business together and a divorce would create issues there? Or you need to both care for a chronically sick child or...? I don't get why people in this situation stay together, otherwise. [/quote]

This arrangement (have your fun but don't bring disease, don't have more children to dilute family wealth, and don't embarrass us) is a time-tested setup that worked for millions of families throughout history.  You remain married for the same reasons you got married - to have a suitable partner, to have children and raise them together, to build family assets.   Releasing body fluids has never been a core part of the marriage until very recently.  You make it sound like people who don't have sex must necessarily hate each other but the fact of the matter is that many many couples have a perfectly friendly, amicable relationship that works for all practical purposes.  Sex is but a small part of life.[/quote]
+1  Although the OW may want to believe the "one day he will leave his wife for me" fantasy..but that is on her[/quote]

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