Reply to ‘Rules Girls’ after divorce

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "‘Rules Girls’ after divorce"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My concern is more about being taken seriously - being seen as a potential relationship, not a fun fling.[/quote]

To get at this point I don't think that men will be less likely to see you as a relationship prospect if you have sex with them early. They are just as likely to think that you're great for being so into them and lose interest if you hold out too long because they don't think you're interested.

What *is* something to be think about is that most second or third dates don't end up in relationships. So if you hook up with someone early, odds are they won't be a long term prospect. So I think that sometimes women will hook up with some guy on the third date and when it doesn't work out think that the guy downgraded them or thought they were sl*ts or something. That's not what happened. Most third dates don't end up as relationships and hooking up doesn't change that. So if you only want to sleep with men who will be long term prospects/boyfriends, don't hook up on the second date.

[/quote]

entirely dependent on the dynamics between 2 individuals and I think maturity/age has something to go with it.  in my post divorce dating days (I was 40 at the time), I went on a first date with a woman (37 years old) where we ended up making out in the parking lot of a local music club, and the 2nd date we ended up in bed,  that relationship fizzled after 3 months  as she moved to the west coast with her son to start a new career (closer to her mom).  Few months late, had another first date with a woman (she was 48) where she mauled me in the parking garage - basically mounted me on top of her car.  We were together for a few months before parting.  Met my now wife (38 year old when we met), and on our 2nd date, we did everything but PIV and we married a year later.  We now have been together for 10 years, have a beautifully blended family and still are hot and passionate for each other.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics