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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are there any women at your firm you can ask for advice?  I know that can be tricky and some people advise you to NEVER reveal that you are less than perfect.  But if there's anyone you trust, test the waters for "how did you do it" advice.

Also, what's your commute like?  Is daycare close to home or work (yours or husbands)?  Can you start to push bedtime back?  Or switch your day so that you start super early and get to have evening time with your baby?  Is your anxiety making you work harder than you need to or feel those 5-7 emails more harshly than you need to?  Have you gotten any feedback about your performance or timeliness since you returned from maternity leave?

Trying to see if there's anything you can change now or soon to help.

As others have said, it does get better.  Try to get control of something so you feel less powerless.[/quote]

Thanks. I have spoken with one other sr associate mother. She's struggling just as much as I am, though it's nice to commiserate. There's one other mother but she's a partner who seems to work part-time. I think she's basically put in her time and is now setting her own schedule. I don't know how, though, because it's mostly the clients who think everything is an emergency that are driving most of this. I think she farms a lot out to a senior. I'm a mid-level and we don't have many juniors.

Commute is decent. 30 minutes. Daycare is close to home.

I don't think starting early would make a difference. I'm not sure why, it just seems like a TON of "emergency" work comes in in the evenings.

Feedback is positive. And yes anxiety is definitely making this harder. I think I could let things slide a little more if not for the anxiety without it hurting my feedback too much. But I don't know how to tune out client's "bumping" a request they sent an hour earlier.

I don't know. I want to try 80% but don't think it would actually be respected. [/quote]

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