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[quote=Anonymous]also op - being addressed at home doesn't always mean punishment. Of course you should help her process what happened, it happened at school so the school handled the "punishment" - now your job as a parent is to help her make all the connections. In school it was probably overwhelming, she was probably a little scared. We don't get a lot of learning in those times. So your opportunity as a parent is to take this as a learning moment. Instead of coming down on her right away - ask her what happened, what was she thinking about. Ask her if she understands why people got upset. She'll probably say she was just joking. Then you help her make the connection that sometimes some things we think are funny, can make other people feel uncomfortable. Connect her to a time she felt uncomfortable. Help talk through how each person is in charge of their own body, and one of the reason the adults got upset is that it's never safe or okay to tell someone else what to do with their xyz body parts. Empathize that you know she was joking, and you also trust that she will be thoughtful with her words as best she can from now on. Help her understand how her words impact others. That is the lesson here. Not that she said a "bad word" and should never say that word again. remember - think of the end goal, not the behavior today.[/quote]

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