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[quote=Anonymous]OP I really agree with everyone and I would take a deep breath (as you're doing) and try to really reflect on how your own upbringing is clouding your thoughts right now. And whether those things your parents taught you, that I think you feel are values, are really values or were more about control and trying to get certain behaviors. I find it helpful to think about what my overall goals are for my children and family. One of the reasons you taught your daughter the anatomically correct words was to prevent abuse. If you chastise her and shame her for using that term, it will undo some of the work (what I'm hearing from you is there is shame in these private parts and private things, your daughter will feel that I assure you. this is not something you want, you want her to feel comfortable saying the words and talking to YOU about it). Making our kids scared, punishing them hugely, yes it might work to stop the behavior in the moment - but it doesn't actually always help to build the confident, engaging kids with a good relationship with their parents that is really our end goal. Find a balance here and do some reflection on whether the relationship you have no with your parents is the one you want with your child in the future. [/quote]

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