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My basic needs were met for the most part (housing, food, sometimes clothing.)  My parents were very big on us kids having private music lessons, to the point where other things we needed (adequate clothing) didn't always happen.

They were physically abusive at times (my dad once slapped me so hard it broke my front tooth) when I would talk back.   Also they were emotionally abusive (my mom would often tell me that I should "go walk the streets like your whore cousin Melissa" (Melissa was actually HER cousin that had a baby out of wedlock) if they thought I was talking back to them.    In general I was a pretty good kid (got good grades, didn't smoke,drink, do drugs, etc.) but apparently I talked back too much.

They put their own wants over our (my siblings and me) safety sometimes.  They wanted to take trips alone to far away places (Hawaii, Europe) but didn't have a family member/trusted sitter to watch us.   So they literally just hired random women without properly vetting them.

One was a 22 year old single woman who had 3 boyfriends (who didn't know about each other.)   She watched us for about a week while my parents went to Europe, and the men rotated on various nights.  Some nights her best friend and the best friend's boyfriend also slept over, and some nights the boyfriends' friends slept over.  I was 13 at the time and as a parent now I think it's really awful that there were so many random young men spending the night like that.   She also took us out one night and stopped at a bar and had us wait in the car while she had a few drinks, then drove us home.

After that, you'd think they (my parents) would have learned a lesson, but 3 years later they went to Hawaii and hired another random lady, this time an older woman.   She decided she didn't want me staying out late on the weekend;  I was in the high school marching band and it was mandatory for me to go to the football games, which ended late at night (and she was aware of this and that it was mandatory!)   The babysitter locked the deadbolt  on the front door so I couldn't get in the house when I came home that night (I came home immediately after the game.)

Even more than the physical and emotional abuse, i think those two babysitters were the worst things my parents did, because they put their desire for a luxury vacation ahead of the basic safety of their kids.  [/quote]

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