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[quote=Anonymous]I’d say a B. We had very little money growing up but my parents were careful to shelter us from that reality and not expose us to adult situations and problems. They were great at stretching food and money to make sure we always had food in the cabinets, the utilities weren’t cut off, gas in the car, etc. We also grew up in a town where this was pretty normal so we definitely weren’t seen as the “poor kids” in school. They made sure we were close to our grandparents and extended family, so there was always someone at our school events and performances and sports. And they gave us a good Catholic upbringing and I’m still pretty strongly religious as a result, so I definitely credit them for that.

The bad: they were both spankers bordering on physically abusive. I realize that’s how they grew up, but my dad was in education and my mom worked at a day care and they never made any effort to stop beating their own kids. I can’t even remember the first time I was spanked so I’m assuming I was 2-3? They seemed to have no control over themselves at times and would fly off the handle at us kids for any minor infractions. Then when we got older and they stopped hitting, it was just constant victim-blaming when I was heavily bullied in school. “They do it because you (wear glasses/like to read/aren’t athletic/etc.)” and they’d never go to bat for me. They contacted the school in 5th grade and the school sent me to the guidance counselor who told me I have low self esteem. My mom hit menopause when I was in late high school and essentially hated having me around, but would also ground me for weeks and give me the silent treatment if I wasn’t home from school on time or if an outing with my friends took longer than expected. It was incredibly immature behavior and I can’t imagine acting that way to my kids when they become teens. [/quote]

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