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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What would happen if OP doesn’t get therapy?

I can imagine there are thousands of people in the same situation, who were brought up by abusive parents and never ended up seeking therapy.

It makes me question what happens to these children as they grow up without the help of therapy. What is the outcome for such people? What does their future look like? [/quote]

We tend not to learn what normal models of relationships are, so we find conflict with abusive people in our workplaces and romantic relationships. Like children of alcoholics, we’re at at higher risk for codependency, not just in romantic relationships, but all relationships. In normal day-to-day conflict with healthy people, our fight, flight, or freeze responses are so exaggerated that we can respond overly dramatically to or get hurt by things that are typical. When we DO identify our families of origin as unhealthy, it can be hard for us to trust that future relationships will be healthy, so we can sometimes isolate ourselves. Alternatively, sometimes other people get a sense for our messiness and avoid us, which can also be isolating. Sometimes we mimic the behavior of our abusive parents without meaning to: If you don’t examine the patterns in your life and whether they serve you, it’s easy to repeat them or to inadvertently repeat them if you don’t consciously learn a better way to respond to adversity. The details look different for every survivor of abuse, but these are the broad strokes of some things that can happen. How affected someone is depends on their resilience. We don’t know why some people can come through horrible situations and fare ok, but other people carry lifelong issues.[/quote]

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