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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know what you're talking about, OP.  One of my kids just feels sorry for himself when he gets in trouble instead of thinking about what he did.

I see parenting articles that say this is caused by authoritarian parenting.  And I do enforce boundaries and punish. But talking to him doesn't do anything.

I don't have any answers.[/quote]

Oh come on. How do YOU feel when you get in trouble? A little defensive and blaming at first, right? [b] Nobody (adult or child) responds to getting in trouble perfectly[/b]. "Oh let me think about what I did and repent!"  No. They react in concordance with their particular personalities, but always in somewhat self-centered ways.  The angel child that reacts by crying hysterically when they get in trouble and begging for forgiveness is no less self-centered than the child who reacts by saying "big deal." Two different coping mechanisms; that's all.  [/quote]

Regardless of whether this is helpful to the OP, thank you for mentioning this, which should be mentioned more often!

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11:39 here.  Yes, I don't have high expectations for the reaction to getting in trouble.  But DS also doesn't seem to learn, modify his behavior, stop doing the wrong thing.

He does have food intolerances, allergies, a metabolic disorder.  And ADHD runs in the family.

Hugs, OP.  Raising kids is hard, the hardest job.  [/quote]

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