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[quote=Anonymous][quote]I don't get it. (Maybe because I don't have children this age?) Doesn't there have to be SOMETHING that happened for them to not like going over there? Or some kind of reason? If the kids won't offer ANY reason, isn't that some kind of red flag that it's something they don't want to talk about? And if it's something else like boring activities, bad food, etc., that sounds fixable and like something you could talk about with grandma.[/quote]

Very common that they don't want to sleep over at that age if grandma is pushy.

I have teens now and I noticed that around 7-9 they really did start picking up on which relatives were easy to be around and which ones were needy, pushy crazies or which ones were fine in small doses but any more was uncomfortable. It can be as simply as grandma is very boring, serves yucky food, beds are uncomfortable or whatever. It can be as complicated as grandma is needy and fulfilling her grandkids fantasies and just using them. The simple fix is just no sleep overs and kids go over when the parents go over.

Its telling that grandma does not seem to care at all that the kids are not comfortable or do not want to sleep over. Since grandma wants its, she will keep pushing and manipulating. This is classic self centered behavior.  Sounds like grandma thinks she's entitled to sleep overs which she isn't.

My kids adore my MIL and can not stand DH's aunt or my mother. My MIL is pretty chill and simply likes to interact with them. She doesn't force them to do things that she has envisioned. She doesn't dump her emotional baggage or gossip about others to them. When they say no thank you, she respects it as no and doesn't take offense or see it as a personal mission to convince them otherwise. The other two do all these things and frankly no one wants to be around them. Their attitude is that kids don't get a vote so ship them over which we will not give in to. [/quote]

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