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OP:  I hope this is true, that DC will understand why we need to divorce.  The other main reason that I have stayed thus far is that he has threatened suicide if we split, more than once.  I insisted on him seeing a professional, and he has now been seeing a psychiatrist weekly.  His outbursts have become less frequent since then, but the controlling behavior is still there.[/quote]

Let him kill himself, big deal.  It's only a problem if he carries life insurance as they normally don't pay in case of suicide.

Your problem is you are too dependent on his approval and validation.  He calls you a bad mother? What's a big deal, there's literally thousands of people who might think that, why is one more a problem?  He doesn't want moms to email just you? Or what? Tell him you will play chess with your child as you see fit and when you see fit. Tell him you'll continue setting up his parties and playdates, if he doesn't like it, he can cry to his therapist. What's a big deal? what is this hold that this man has on you?  Next time he threatens to kill himself, smile and say - is this a promise? Start not caring.  Not caring is extremely powerful. Stop catching his crazy. Make him see that his outbursts don't affect you. [/quote]

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