Reply to Feeling sad about Christmas

Forum Index » Parenting -- Special Concerns

Reply to "Feeling sad about Christmas"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, YOU are seeing things in terms of dollars signs. Re-evaluate THAT.[/quote]

I kind of agree. How do you know how much she is spending and why are you tracking? I think the real problem is that you see this as some sort of competition, which it is not. You are assuming that her intention is to outdo you...and you know what they say about assumptions.

The kids have two parents/families who adore them and that is great. Work on teaching gratitude, absolutely, but don’t blame her entirely for their lack of it. [/quote]

I'm not "tracking"

I am aware for the simple fact that the kids themselves are telling their dad what their mom is buying them.

I am also not assuming anything. Her intention is always to "outdo" him. It is very, very obvious - and very, very challenging to counter.

It's so interesting that the set of parents who are doing their best to instill values in these kids are the ones who are seen as competitive. I'm not being competitive. I'm sad at their continual exhibition of entitlement instead of gratitude. .

And, I do think the kids perceive it as a competition - favoring the one who spends more, with little to no regard for the efforts of the one who doesn't.

Look, it's fine to be excited about big gifts and things, but true gratitude starts with the little stuff.

[/quote]

Dude, you are the caricature of the evil stepmother. Can you listen to yourself for a second?  you want to TAKE PRESENTS AWAY from your stepchildren, that THEIR MOTHER gives them??? What is WRONG with you?

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics