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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]C section was way better than vaginal. [/quote]

Wow really? [/quote]

+1 here

Also, a lot of "natural" birth proponents are misogynists and want women to suffer.

My C-section was easy. I was terrified going into it, thanks to the natural birth propaganda I had absorbed. And yet, it was a miraculous, largely pain-free experience.
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+1 to this. I watched the Ricki Lake documentary and read Ina May and really drank the natural birth Kool aid. I was all set to experience the rushes and breathe and squat my baby out. Turns out actual labor for me was nothing like that. The worst pain of my life and I ended up with all sorts of awful pelvic floor conditions as a result, like prolapse and an injured tailbone and internal tears in my vaginal walls (turns out there was a family history of prolapse but no one told me til after my birth cause no one wants to scare pregnant women. Too bad because I wish they had.) Birth is just one day - it turns out that the ability to live, mother, be active, have sex, poop, pee, hold in gas, wear tampons, stand, run, jump, etc all depend on a functional pelvic floor. If it’s injured it’s not something some pelvic PT can always fix. Wish I had known all that was at stake when I went into the delivery room. If I can get pregnant next time I will 100 percent have a scheduled C section. There’s way way way too much fear mongering about C sections.

OP, There are different ways for babies to be born and there are different ways to feed your baby. All have pros and cons. Breast is not best. Vaginal birth is not best. Both vaginal birth and breastfeeding can have some serious downsides for women and anyone who pressures you into those should be aware that the pressure to do those things is often rooted in misogyny and/or religious fundamentalism (look up the roots of La Leche League or the natural birth movement). Make the right choices for you and your family without shame. A loved and fed baby and happy mom is best. [/quote]

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