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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He fought dirty during the separation/divorce in order to win the best possible settlement/position for himself possible.

Now that everything has been settled during the divorce and he is no longer fighting to protect his own self interests, he feels no need to be contentious with you.  And he is not going to put his energy into fighting you.  The divorce terms are laid out, child custody has been determined and that's good enough.

He's being "friendly" because you share a child together. If it wasn't for your son, he probably would just go his separate way and be done with you and that phase of his life.  And that's pretty much it in a nutshell. He basically DGAF, which you already knew.[/quote]

This sounds about right to me, he got what for him an outcome that he believes is the best possible outcome given the circumstances.  He probably feels there is more to gain from being nice to you (perhaps flexibility with the visitation schedule) than not.[/quote]

OP here - I have always been flexible with visitation so that can’t be it. He, for some dumbass reason, took me to court for visitation/custody. He first told the mediator he wanted sole custody. The mediator almost fell out in laughter. So now our child lives with me and he has standard visitation. [b]It only needs to be flexible for him when he decides he wants to skip a weekend because of other plans.[/b] And that’s fine too. Our child would rather not visit him for weekends at all. [/quote]

Right, but that's a benefit to him esp. if you let him shift the visitation around on a weekend when he has something else he would rather do.  [/quote]

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