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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So you expect a 3rd grader and your preschooler (with some disabilities) to be buddies and play harmoniously together for several hours while parents are off socializing?

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[b]Of course I do.[/b] Have you never been to someone else’s home where the multi age kids go off to another room and watch a movie? Or go to someone’s playroom to check out the toys? in this most recent case they were watching a movie and I 1000 percent expect older children to not antagonize him.  [/quote]

NP- for HOURS?  Wow. Your expectations are crazy.[/quote]

Yeah. An 8 year old and a SN 4 year old? That’s not realistic for the vast, vast majority of kids. The multi age kids hang works when there are a bunch of kids spanning a range of ages (and even then, it doesn’t always work with a 4 year old). This sounds like an 8 year old is expected to entertain a 4 year old who has difficulty processing language so likely plays younger for HOURS and repeatedly. It doesn’t sound like she’s the worlds nicest kid, but she is entirely normal and definitely being set up for failure. The fact that it doesn’t happen at the playground where she can get separation is very telling. She’d rather not play with the 4 year old than be mean, she’s just not up to playing nicely yet. The fact her older brother can manage may be temperament, but it may also be that he is older (being nice to younger kids is a learned skill) and there are actually lower expectations on him) probably no one expects him to play with a 4 year old for hours/his type of play (phone/electronics?) isn’t interrupted by a 4 year old. An 8 year old not wanting to sit next to a 4 year old during dinner is normal. This is *finally* her chance to interact with adults. The fact the table is being set up for them to sit next to each other — despite the OP’s awareness of mean behavior — is incredibly telling about what OP/the other parents expect and that the adult socializing is the priority.[/quote]

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