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[quote=Anonymous]As others have said part of why you feel guilty is society has these rules about family and what we suck up for them. DH and I went to therapy years ago to deal with his abusive mother-alcoholic abusive mother. The therapist agreed everything described was ABUSE, but she was a member of the suck it up generation and kept saying, "but she's family." We found another therapist who was appalled this woman was so flippant not just about MIL's abusive behavior, but about what it was doing to us and out kids emotionally and physically. The second therapist helped us to set boundaries and when that was rejected, she helped us to be at peace with distance.

Had a close friend who was very judgmental about how we were handling the abusive behavior and took the whole :but she's family" view. Her parents and inlaws at the time were a dream. Several years later her inlaws got very judgmental of her parenting choices and were quite vocal and cruel. Suddenly she had to set boundaries and distance and she understood.[/quote]

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