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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think it is unhealthy.

If they moved to an over 55 community all their amenities will be right there which will encourage independence ... which is healthy.

If you are close you will do everything for them which will make their health decline faster. [/quote]

Why do you assume she would do everything for them? [/quote]

Because they'd be constantly calling and knocking on the door and guilt-tripping her.

She's basically signing up to be an unpaid maid / go-fer / lackey.[/quote]
I don't see where she says that in her post. She says her dad might knock on her door a lot, but I saw that as about seeking her company, not about guilt-tripping or turning her into a maid/lackey, whatever. She knows her parents and her relationship with them. [/quote]

If he was in an over 55 community he would find a plethora of people with tons of time on their hands and the same interests. He would not need "her company". ... besides, her company is limited at least to when she is not working, working out, doing hobbies, having a life.

So if he depends on her for "company" it will be limited. At an over 55 community his company (which helps with memory, happiness, etc) will be plenty. [/quote]
You sound kind of mean, tbh. Are your parents still living? Are you maybe projecting your own stuff on to the OP? [/quote]

My mother just dies this Fall sadly. I work in the field though. I see people that could do so much more if people just realized they are not equipped to care for the elderly and I watch people's ability to care for themselves drastically decline when they are living in areas designed for the young. I work to build "elderly" parks in the community. They build parks for kids but none for the elderly.

In a community designed for over 55 their life expectancy is longer and their quality of life is extended. The average age to go to a nursing home or need nursing care is much higher for those not engaged with their community on a regular basis. [/quote]

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