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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you need to focus more on your kids and less on your DH.

For DH, just get him to agree that if kids ask him about bedtime or screen time, he will send them to you.

You do not need extra punishments/consequences.  You need bedtime and screen time rules (with DD's buy in) that you can enforce initially, making punishments/consequences unnecessary.  For example, afterschool to after dinner, kids are left to their own devices to decide what to do with their time (and with their devices).  After dinner, phones to you/in a specific place in the house so that they can get done whatever it is they need to get done (homework/shower/chores/whatever).  If they are done with whatever it is they need to do, they may have their device back until whatever time you've decided (together) is "bedtime."  As of "bedtime" - no screens.  If they still need to study/do homework or want to read or do some other non-screen activity, fine, they can decide when to actually go to sleep.

If they have their phone when they're not supposed to, you take it right then and don't worry about adding on an additional consequence that DH would have to help enforce.  Just enforce the rule in the moment.  Remind child that they agreed to these rules because they agree that it's important not to overload on screen time and to take care of other things in their life.

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I think this is a reasonable approach.  Don't get in a battle.  Be matter of fact. I would also ask DD why she got distracted by Netflix and ask her to help come up with a solution (if she even sees it as a problem). Ask her to help solve the problem.  You can ask her probing questions but, you can't control her at this age.  [/quote]

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