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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it your thyroid?  Are you one the natural thyroid med ?  I think it works much better than synthroid.  Anyway you might be romanticizing sah life a bit.  In my experience you get LESS ‘me’ time.

I sah part time and wfh.  My house is a disaster because the kids play here all day and I cook constantly.  My husband is unhappy because he’s always cleaning the kitchen but I can’t clean and do childcare, all I can manage is cooking.  Laundry is always a disaster.  The mail piles are hilariously teetering.  I can barely keep up with paying the lawn mower and the nanny.

I am a healthy weight., and I get to do things like walk my 3 yo to preschool and take them outside to play.  But I deal with a lot of tantrums, diapers, and puke.  Also I miss out on talking with peers.

it’s worth it to me.  I like spending time with my kids right now.  But I wouldn’t assume you will be Martha Stewart.  Childhood is messy, crazy, chaotic.  No real ‘me’ time.  I often skip things like shaving or teeth brushing, which I know sounds crazy, but I am always in on call.  I guess we can keep a neat house once they’re in college.

Can you take a gym class at lunch time?  I would start there.  Also thought this article was great: https://parenting.nytimes.com/feeding/meal-planning-kids

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There are some helpful tips in the article-- thank you!

I was home with my oldest for the first year, and it was HARD. I understand the challenges, but my reasons for wanting to make a change are to spend more time with my kids, and work on my health. I mentioned in a follow-up post that my 5YO is in kindergarten during the school year, and my 2YO (soon to be 3) is a pretty easy kid. I would be happy with an hour to work out (gym daycare) and cooking a simple/healthy meal for my family.[/quote]

Yeah i think the three meal target for the week that the article describes is really brilliant.  Def get the wanting to spend time with your kids thing, most of my peers don't understand this but its just my thing right now.  but some days are TOUGH.  if you do decide to do this i strongly recommend you find a part time pre-school for the little guy, even if its a co-op.  its very hard to set up playdates since most moms woh, and it can be isolating for both of you.  i tried the gym/music toddler classes but they are kind of a time sink and not really worth it imho.

what sucks for me right now is my dh really expects me to do all the housework, in addition to scheduling everything for the kids because i work so many less hours.  i would make sure you talk with your dh ahead of time about what chores you can take on vs what will be outsourced and where he will still pitch in.

i do love being able to drop off and pick up my kids, talking to the other parents, being able to go really slow when it comes to putting our shoes or coats on, walking places instead of driving, and not rushing around or fighting traffic.

another option is to tell your office you need to work from home a few days a week.  i mean if they won't let you then, okay, you quit.  but it seems like it would be worth it to them to let you try it.  good luck.  [/quote]

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