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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]"I don't hate you, I hate your personality." If someone said this to you, you wouldn't feel personally attacked?

I'm an introvert, and I can tell you right now, there are times when I would give anything to be an extrovert - happy to engage in superficial conversation about absolutely nothing for hours on end. Over time I've learned how, and so for much of my existence I feel like I'm living someone else's life, being "On" for people, for their benefit. It's absolutely exhausting, and this time of year too is absolute hell with all of the gatherings and family obligations.

It isn't easy being in a relationship with an introvert, especially in a world that simply won't shut the f*ck up. But I have to think there are qualities she brings to the table that you probably are taking for granted. You can either try to understand her, or do yourself (and HER) a favor, and call it a day.[/quote]

Thank you for this. She’s the only introvert I know so this hasn’t been easy for me. It’s nice to get another introvert’s prospective. But I have to say, I give you a lot of credit for at least trying.[/quote]

Also - someone mentioned social anxiety above. I'm not a psychologist, but this is absolutely the case for me. For hours beforehand, or sometimes even days, I'm thinking about all the people I'll have to interact with, all the BS conversation. If there's alcohol, then no problem. I can drown the anxiety and feed the part of me that longs to be the life of the party. And it's not like there's anything inherently wrong with BS conversation. It's just that my nature is to form deep bonds with a select few people, and so when I'm forced to have superficial interactions with many different people all the time, it's absolutely draining, and sometimes I just shut down. For this reason I'm prone to bouts of anxiety and depression, something I've learned to manage but still struggle with.

I know it's hard to show compassion for someone you can't understand. Good luck.[/quote]

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