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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.  A lot of posters are making up a lot of stories in thier heads to make the OP evil.

Op, my guess is your sister lost or broke the statute or never had it.  After three years, it is time to ask her directly if she has it and forgive her if she does not.

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Your sister should be honest with you, OP. My friend was in a similar situation, but always flew her mom in to visit her - each kids' birthday, Mother's day, and either Thanksgiving or Christmas each year.  While the mom lived with the sister for a few years, the sister was hostile with the rest of the family.  I saw it in action, it wasn't pretty, the sister definitely had a chip on her shoulder.  It got to be that my friend did not want the jealous sister around her kids, because it was just too much.

Apparently, the sister was always that way - "poor little me" martyr, though the parents gave the sister everything they had.  They weren't rich, but they had a nice house, and the mom only wore real gold jewelry, never costume jewelry, for example.  My friend went with her dad to pick out the gold jewelry, from their special high end jeweler, every mother's day, mother's birthday, and Christmas, so her mom had amassed quite an impressive collection over the decades, and filled her beautiful high boy Lane brand cedar hope chest with gorgeous jewelry and family photos.  When the mom died, all my friend wanted was certain items whose value was worthless to anyone else (ex; photos).

The sister had always wanted to be an only child - that's how spoiled she was - and apparently was a mean drunk, abusive to the mother who relied on her. The sister had a will drawn up with very deliberate "token" things left to everyone else in the family - to a point where it was clearly meant to insult, exclude and minimize everyone else in the family, and their relationship with their mother.  Meanwhile, the sister took everything - the jewelry, the grandmother's jewelry, proceeds from the house, and a life insurance policy that the mother paid for. It was all very blatant and disgusting, so my friend just decided not to talk to her awful selfish sister anymore. Because, what was the point?

When the mom died, the mom's best friend, who had heard all the stories over the years, brought the truth to light.  Apparently, the mother didn't want everyone to know how bad my friend's sister had spiraled out of control, but protected her to her own detriment.  The mom's friend ripped into the sister, as was well deserved and long overdue.

Caretakers aren't always wonderful "saints", sometimes they are abusive, selfish, self centered and self serving to the end. Hopefully that is not your family's situation.  If your sister is the executor, self appointed or otherwise, you should still get something that you want from the estate - not junk. You are one of your mother's children, you had your own relationship with your mother, and you matter. No one gets to tell you otherwise.  Frankly, some of the PPs seem to be projecting.   [/quote]

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