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[quote=Anonymous]OP, there’s even decent adv e in the bad advice here, so read it and take it with a grain of salt, and maybe also a grain of sugar. 
It sounds like you had a great level of unhappiness related to your mother not meeting your personal need for affection. You’re now an adult, and can meet the needs you have. Why are you continuing to give your mother dominion over your happiness, when you can see that she is not able to be who you want her to be? You have to find a way to let the past go, and let go of the blame game, which gets you nowhere except inside your own head. therapy is An EXCELLENT vehicle to learning self forgiveness, and how to move forward. It can be intensely painful, and feels like an unforgiving process if you’re doing it right, but you have to move air to move forward, instead of being stuck where you are right now.

You, and only you, are the maker of your own happiness or unhappiness. Yes, your parents shaped who you are to this point, but there is no reason you can’t shape yourself differently now. You just need to take charge of that happiness and make it happen for you, because it’s not something anyone else can give you.[/quote]

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