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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel like most of us know what I’m referring to. It’s an old experiment which showed 3-4yos who could delay gratification went on to be more successful in school than those who didn’t.

My 4yo would fail this miserably ten times over.

She’s a great kid. She’s really bright—not like smart (ha ha) but good at most things and she’s always paying attention. She doesn’t miss a thing. She’s also really outgoing and has a magnetic personality. But she cannot wait for anything. If she wants something then she cannot stop thinking about it. A lot of times she cannot stop herself from just taking it without permission. If you have her three marshmallows she would put all three in her mouth while asking for more. And she’d cry immediate when you say no. The advent calendar is not going well. Obviously I need to parent this and make it work, and I will, but wtf, kid?

I’m not embellishing. So what is this? She’s clearly behind her peers in this regard.

She does not seem to have ADHD but it’s still early. She just cannot wait. She is really impulsive. [/quote]
Hold on.  Did you actually administer this test? (not the Advent Calendar test...the marshmallow test)
I administered it to both my kids at 4.

BTW if your kid fails, all is not lost.  Turns out you can teach the coping mechanisms that create the delay gratification.  Google this, because that's really the answer to our question--that it's fixable.[/quote]

I just administered the test. No marshmallows so I used a candy corn. I set up a camera and she at the candy at the 60 second mark.

But the worst part was that she cried afterwards because she didn’t get any more.

I don’t think my conditions were very rigorous. She may have done better with a stranger. [/quote]

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