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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You gotta reframe this. [b] Sure they can come to anything they want!  But they can't spend the night more than 2-3 nights a month and must clear it ahead of time.[/b]

Sounds like the basement guestroom needs to become unavailable for a little while to reset everyone's expectations.

I would not treat them like guests when they come either.  They can find the clean sheets and towels, they can run to the store, they can help cook dinner.

[b]Perhaps a standing weekend would be a good idea[/b].  That way, you can say "oh yes Johnny has a game this weekend, but remember we're planning to have you come next weekend for his karate jamboree, so save your driving for that! See you in a week!"[/quote]

The bolded. I think that if they want to come to every school/extracurricular event, that is fine, but they can't stay with you. Normally I'd say have your husband talk to them, but it really sounds like you need to talk to him and then you BOTH need to talk to them and say, "Mom and Dad, we love seeing you and we love how involved you are with Rachel and Ross, but we can't host you mid-week as often as you are coming. If you still want to come to every basketball game, we are happy to see you/sit with you/have dinner afterward, but then you guys will either need to stay in a hotel or head home because we can't host. We'd like to propose that you come stay with us for one weekend a month, but beyond that, you guys will need to find other lodging."[/quote]

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