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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How can you insist that family and friends get the names right?

In a large family / friend situation -- I think by answering to either name they are just being polite.[/quote]

+1  Your girls are being polite.  [/quote]

There is nothing polite about pretending to be someone else.  It's polite to just say "I'm Susan".[/quote]
Have you never met twins?[/quote]
Right?! [/quote]

I’m surprised at some of the responses suggesting forced differentiation and required haircuts. That’s so extreme. Some twins like being a pair. It’s usually a phase, but sometimes it lasts longer. It seems cruel to me to force a wedge like that.

Quite frankly, unless you do something extremely dramatic like a pixie cut for one and long hair for the other, people are still going to confuse them. I had girls 2.5 years apart who had similar coloring (both gingers) but didn’t look terribly alike, were different ages and sizes, had different hairstyles, etc. People still confused them. I also have a set of identical twins, and some people will call them the wrong name right after being corrected. Some people just don’t care enough to try to differentiate or aren’t capable, and it’s wrong to make children to conform to assist people who can’t be bothered to learn their names.

And for the people saying it’s rude to answer to the wrong name, when it happens often enough, it starts to feel similar to a mispronunciation. How many times do you expect someone to correct a person with authority (and for children, that’s practically every adult, especially family members) before realizing they just won’t get it. How often would you correct your boss’s boss for calling you Mary instead of Marie in passing? [/quote]

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