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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is exactly the situation with DH's family and is exactly the reason why they're not invited to come visit over winter break. I'm a teacher and need the break and it's not a break with someone who considers it to be rude if I'm not sitting in the same room with them at all times. Then even though we've discussed it in advance, DH gets in on the action and starts calling me out as well when I go upstairs to fold laundry or go out for a walk. I'm not spending my much needed break held hostage in my own home and then also having to clear the kids' schedule completely so that they can sit in the house with them. Last time they were here I took DS to a good friend's birthday party and got texts and phone calls 1.5 hours after we left (to a venue 20 minutes from our house) to find out when we would be home because we had been gone for a long time. and MIL wanted to spend that time with DS.  MIL also expected that we would have declined the invitation since she was visiting. Um, no. [/quote]

Sounds like my in laws. They expect that our lives basically stop when they visit. If DS has a sports game scheduled they will attend but will expect that DS doesn't spend any time after the game socializing with teammates (i.e. eating a snack and running around for a few minutes). They monopolize his attention any time he's not actually on the field and get upset if they feel like he's ignoring them (he's focusing on the game, not them). It's always very uncomfortable when they visit and they think I'm rude for having a scheduled doctor appointment. I, too, get phone calls when I've been gone to find out where I am and when I'll be back. It's like I'm on the shortest leash ever. It's stifling. [/quote]

This is my mother. This is how she was my entire teenage years and why I got an off campus apartment sophomore year so I never had to go home. She left today after 4 days and anytime I left the room she was in she would shout my name to see where I was and accuse me of being rude. Even if it was helping my 3 or 5 year old with something. I'm exhausted today. [/quote]

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