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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]It’s NOT code for gold digger. It’s code for responsible.

"I am financially prudent and am looking for someone similar."

I definitely want financially stable. [/quote]

When a woman age 28 to 35 says this, it translates as follows:

"I spent the last ten to fifteen years having sex with an endless string of outlaw bikers, escaped mental patients, and tatted musicians, but now I want a boring guy with a job so I can have babies."

That's great for you, but don't be surprised if the "boring" guy you rejected back in college isn't interested in you now.[/quote]

A silly generalization. Out of all my friends, relatives, and acquaintances, I can only think of one woman this applies to. My husband and I started dating when I was 28, and he was my third partner (and hey, he was the first guy I ever dated with a tattoo!) At 28, I owned a condo, had a solid career, and enjoyed a pretty nice life - I was not looking for someone to carry me, but rather an equal partner to set up a life and a family with. [/quote]

It is both silly and logically false to generalize to all women from your own personal experience. Try again with less solipsism next time.

"Women want to date bad boys in their 20s and then want to settle down with a nice guy" is so commonplace now that it's practically a meme. Heck, you have CEOs advising women to do exactly that:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.”  -- Sheryl Sandberg

Not explained: why a guy who worked hard and get a good job is going to want to split his wealth 50/50 with someone who spent her twenties slutting around with the worst men imaginable.[/quote]

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