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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here again.

Yeah, I still err on not putting any financial or socio-economic "requirements" in a dating profile and would always get to know a person first before "evaluating" them. It's more about certain tells that signal whether or not someone is LTR material. It's a certain form of maturity.

The "apartment in Wheaton with a Costco membership" is a perfectly reasonable standard of living for a millennial. Even if he did have roommates - because he wanted to be closer to work in downtown DC, or because he wanted to aggressively save for a downpayment, etc - this would be fine. That's why I hit more at the "mom's basement" thing, or "mattress on the floor with pizza stains." I need to see a certain kind of sophistication and pride in one's standard of living, and an earnest effort to improve one's overall financial and residential situation from when he was in college. There are too many 30-year-old men who don't. [/quote]

OP, you're doing fine! My standards were similar back in the day. I was and am NOT a gold-digger, I have worked since I was 15 with no breaks, and I earn a little bit more than my husband. When I was dating in my mid to late 20s, I had "financially stable" as my criteria. To me that meant gainfully employed in a full time job and living independently outside of the parental home (either with roommates or alone). My husband was making 50K when we met in the late 2000s, hardly wealthy. But it was a solid job with a good company, he had his own apartment, he knew how to cook and take care of himself, and in general was a stable adult.  [/quote]

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