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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would try talking with your sister, with the therapist on the phone with you or on video with you. Maybe a small amount of contact, and venting of issues on your sister’s part, would help. Or at least the therapist may help you to get your sister to stop the inappropriate and harassing levels of reaching out and could be a witness if it does come to needing a restraining order.[/quote]

If the sister has been honest/forthcoming with the therapist, no legitimate therapist would suggest reaching out.  The therapy would focus on the sister learning to manage her own feelings and reactions.  "Venting" is not going to move the sister closer to recovery, it will only reinforce her feelings.  A real therapist would not suggest this as long as the sister is harassing OP. [/quote]

I would still be kind, and try to help the sister, with the therapist’s support.  [/quote]

[b]Nope. You do not understand personality  disorders. [/b]OP needs to enforce consistent boundaries not reward bad behavior with attention.

There are lot of crummy therapists. It sounds like mom is an enabler, not surprising.

I would recommend to your mom to look into residential programs, they can help at least stabilize things.

What is your families situation? Does your sister work? Do your parents or her have money for care and anything else they need?

You said she made xyz demands — can you broadly describe what she is looking for from you? If it’s money, she might qualify for SSI Disability because of severe mental health. If it’s attention she wants, maybe your mom can set her up with a home health aide or more frequent therapy and group therapy.

But clearly maintain boundaries.  No direct contact.  [/quote]

I do, and I still think it would be worth trying some limited contact with the sister.[/quote]

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