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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why can’t you sleep in a hotel room?  I would have no sympathy if my husband got a quiet room to himself with zero interruption and “couldn’t sleep”

There isn’t any reason you shouldn’t come back rested.  Next time take an ambien or a Xanax[/quote]

Female here, and I don't sleep well in hotel rooms either.  Zero interruption is a fantasy - have you never stayed in a hotel?  People have parties in hotels, there are kids, there are people who have loud sex or sound like they are stomping around.  On top of that, the surroundings aren't familiar; it isn't your bed, your pillows, your environment, etc, so relaxation is already hard.  To say that flights are not comfortable is an understatement, even if you are flying first class.  Many people on travel party for sure, but I would say even more people are working 12-14 hours a day.

That said, I agree that OP needs to take over child care after being gone.  I think a better solution, however, if they could afford it, is to outsource some childcare for the days that he is traveling.  [/quote]

You need to get better at staying in hotels!  Download a white noise app, it's FREE.  Get an eye mask.  Buy some ear plugs.  Take a unisom.  Works pretty well.  Not perfectly, but pretty good.[/quote]

I wear ear plugs; they don't block all noise.  I take melatonin, and it kinda helps with the jet lag but I still wake up in the middle of the night. I'm not doping myself up with ambien or Xanax - that's insane.  I've tried stuff like Benadryl, and I wake up groggy on it.  For me it isn't a good idea to sleep with eye mask unless I don't care if I wake up groggy the next day.  I need light to wake me up (so I usually sleep with blinds mostly drawn but not completely so some sunlight can peek in).

I try to pack light, so I can bring 1 pillow, but don't often have room for it in my luggage.  There's nothing I can do about the hotel mattress.  Most hotel mattresses suck, and my work won't pay for high end hotels with nice mattresses.  There is nothing I can do about how uncomfortable flights are, and there is nothing I can do about working long hours.

My point is that posters here make it sound like work travel is a vacation. Maybe it is for some people, but it isn't for me... and I'm guessing - most people![/quote]

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