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[quote=Anonymous]Try just empathy, without trying to fix anything. Find some stock phrases to respond to the latest drama, and repeat again and again. Things like "that must be hard" or "ah yes, you mentioned that, how challenging" or "right, yes, that does sound difficult to manage". But don't do any "but...." or "may I suggest" or any of that. It does sound like your need to get your DH on the same page. That SIL has resources to help herself, that a certain amount of empathy and listening is fine, but not if it becomes a call to action multiple times a month.[/quote]
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