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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Hire help, get couples counseling, and plan to go back to work when the new baby is in preschool.  [b]Going back to work will equalize things between you and your DH.  [/b][/quote]

No it won’t.

I doubt she’d be able to get a job anywhere near his salary. He would still be the breadwinner and would do zero around the house. She’d be working and doing everything house/kid related, just like before.

This is delusional thinking. 
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It will equalize things because she will be participating in the formal labor market, [b]instead of just stuck at home being her DH's unpaid domestic labor. [/b]It will likely be more tiring than SAH, but that's the trade off.  It will prepare OP for a likely divorce/separation.  It will also give her grounds to insist on household help and more participation by her DH, unless he is a total ass (which he may be).  I have a useless DH who doesn't even do me the courtesy of earning $775k/year, and it would be much, much worse if I didn't have my own adult life outside of the house.  At least with me going to work, he knows that he has to help somewhat with drop-off and sick days.  What OP's situation does do is give her the luxury of SAH until the kids are out of the baby stage.  [/quote]

She's a SAHM with a weekly cleaning service and a night nanny. Life can't be that hard on her.[/quote]

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